Where do you stand with things? You know, life stuff. Do you feel like you have it all figured out? Let me let you in on a secret – I don’t. It’s not just me either. I was having dinner with a friend the other weekend. As we talked, we both shared that we felt like we needed to get our lives together. That doesn’t mean that things are bad. For both of us, there are areas in our lives that are popping and awesome! Because of that, sometimes it makes it hard to acknowledge the areas where you want there to be more. While we’re both happy with where we are in life right now, there’s a nagging feeling that there is more in us to do.
For me, I’m on this journey of re-discovering my purpose. As I peel the layers back, I’m starting to pivot on some of the things that I was really into. Some things I’m just less interested in. Even though it can be a tough pill to swallow, it’s ok. Acknowledging that I’ve outgrown some things is a good thing. It’s trying to hold on to those things that will hold me back. Still, that doesn’t make it easy. I’m trying to remember that letting go of something only makes room for something else, something better.
I think our family’s move is bringing up a lot of stuff for me. I hadn’t considered that moving over and hour away from our old home would bring some upheaval for me. That’s exactly what’s happening though. I have been so focused on what this move means for my kids and making sure they’re adjusting that I haven’t focused on me. My attention has been on addressing all of their questions, fears and concerns and not even thinking about my own. It took me having dinner with my friend for me to even allow that light bulb to pop on. She reminded me that our relocation doesn’t only impact the kids and to give myself the space to process and adjust. While it’s a good thing for our family, it’s still change.
I’m finding that as my life is changing and I’m getting older, the things I want are changing as well. All of this has me still figuring things out. Still trying to figure out my place in this world and giving more thought to the impact I want to make on this world. Is that a bad thing? I’ve heard people be down on themselves because their life doesn’t look a certain way. I think that what having it together looks like has changed because we have social media giving us snapshots of life.
We forget that those pics/videos are the highlight reel and that real life happens after that post is shared. As an example, I remember sharing a picture of me out having fun with my kids. They were smiling in the picture. Not long after I posted it, they took turns having meltdowns. Both are real life. Still the one I posted of them smiling is what people get to see. And so people walk away thinking life is perfect and that I’ve got it all figured out.
If you are looking at other people and feeling like you don’t measure up – stop. If you’re looking at social media and feeling like everyone is doing better than you – don’t. It’s ok to not have it all figured out yet. It’s ok to still be working some stuff out. Life changes all the time and it changes what we are able to to, have time to do and what our focus is. All of that is ok. My advice, let go of the need to have life all figured out. It’s like chasing perfection. You’ll never get there. Life changes too much to chase a moving target like perfection. Instead, get quiet. Think about what you need to do to feel like you’re moving in the right direction. Then do that. Make a small step forward in that direction. Keep making those small steps until you see things changing.
What does that look like for me? I give myself some quiet time to sit down and write. Writing helps me focus. It clears my mind and helps me sort through my feelings and goals. From there, I can come up with a plan of next steps. Still working on figuring things out? What does having it all figured out mean to you?
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LOVE this! So inspiring! I have just fallen in love with your blog and signed up! 🙂 xo
Change is always hard on everyone adults and children as well as pets. So as your going through this make sure and take some time for yourself. Just to sit and think about what is happened share both your fears and excitement with others as it will make the move easier. Have a great day.
We’re a military family and I totally understand the issues with moving. My concern is always my kids, their schools, and their emotional well being. We have moved so much that it’s almost easy now… I have raised smart, resilient, friendly girls and it will all turn out just fine. Great Post!
Thank you! I appreciate the encouragement. 🙂
Yes. My biggest concern was my kids. I really worked to make this a smooth transition for them.
I don’t think anyone ever has it all figured out. We’re all constantly evolving and when you just get your head around one thing there will be something else that throws a spanner in the works. Even the people who look like they’ve got it together will be having days when they haven’t got a clue.
You will never have it figured out. Even the people who seem to know what they’re doing are most likely FAKING IT until they “make it”!
Exactly! I’m totally OK with that.
I loved this post. Life constantly holds lessons for each of us. I believe in finding solutions and figuring things out one step at a time. Besides, when we solve one issue another surfaces. But, that’s ok too. Thanks for sharing on Sunday’s Best. Looking forward to hearing more from you.
I love that line learning to let go, gives room for the new thing to spring forth. Having it all figured out to me means I am dead! lol cause I am certain I won’t get there before then!…. But in the mean time I think for me, most imporant is finding peace in the crazy of life and faith that it will all turn good in the end.
Great post! Appreciate you sharing your experience! I don’t have it figured out really either but I know now I’m less likely to torture myself over not having things figured out and more likely to roll with it and see what I learn along the way.