Today, my buddy LaTorsha stops by from Life is Hard, Laugh Anyway. Though she just announced that her wonderful blog is coming to an end*:(*, she’s hanging out today and picking up where I left off on whether or not we can have it all.
Dreams change and it’s okay
Growing up I dreamed about things like:
• Getting my driver’s license
• Going to the prom
• Graduating high school, then college
• Having a successful career
• Getting married
• AND living happily ever after
As I grew up and met all the dreams mentioned above, I started to want more. You see I didn’t dream of having kids in my younger years. Having a child wasn’t on the list for me.
BUT you see dreams change.
My dreams changed in early 2006, I realized there was MORE to life and I was missing it. I wanted a baby. I wanted to be a mom. I wanted to change the storyline for my dreams.
{Fast forward}
My son was born in 2007 and I was living my dream…….as a mom. BUT things changed at work, I wasn’t able to do the hours I used to do. I couldn’t be the super employee. This was hard for me, but I did what moms do. I made it work…..well, for awhile. After becoming a mom I was promoted the same year to a position that I had wanted for a few years. My husband tells people it was my dream job. AND quite honestly, it was.
Life happened, events took place, etc. etc. and I found myself in a situation where jobs were not there for a mom who needed flex hours and was dependent on childcare with hours that didn’t correlate with the needs of employers in my field.
I was heartbroken at times and sometimes I cried. A successful career was part of my dreams. I never imagined life without this piece of the puzzle. I was Ms Independent. I didn’t need anybody to take care of me. I was a superwoman! So I thought.
But you see dreams change.
When I made room for another dream, I had to shift some things around. I had to reevaluate what I wanted in life and what was most important. Times like this are when I believe God sits me down to have some one on one time.
I still believe I can have a successful career, but accepting that maybe I’m being called in a different direction. And you know what? It’s okay.
Many moms are always asking how can you have it all? Meaning be a supermom and manage career. Well, I don’t know the answer. But I do believe you have to decide for yourself what you really want out of life and what is important to you. When I decided I wanted to be a mom, it consumed my soul and I couldn’t sleep at night. It was so overwhelming! So I know that despite how my career has spiraled I have NO regrets.
At 34 years old, I still have time to meet so many more career related goals in due time. So for now I am enjoying the mom moments. HOWEVER, I still reflect on the past career milestones, but don’t worry, I still have career goals on the timeline, just waiting for the right time to fill them in.
Now tell me, have your dreams ever been interrupted by a better dream? Tell me about it. I’m listening.
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Special thanks to Camesha for allowing me to guest post. Although I have not met her in real life, I love her spirit that shines so eloquently through her blog.
Latorsha, is the blogger of Life is Hard, Laugh Anyway, a place where she tries to remain optimistic by any means necessary, mostly laughter. She especially loves connecting with new people. On twitter you can follow her at @AnOptimisticMom. You can check out her blog Here
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Aww…I miss your blog so much! We have put having money on the back burner for now, so I can stay home more with the kids. Chasing money didn’t serve us well. It led to a tired and unhappy mom and dad. Now that we have both found our balance, things could not be any better.
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Thanks buddy! Although we get quite distracted by it at times….money isn’t everything and we have to make choices that are best for self and family.
I love this post and enjoy reading so much. Thanks for this golden advice.
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A very wonderful post. You’re so right, dreams do change, and even if we weren’t expecting it to, they do change for the better. I didn’t expect to quit my job and be a full time SAHM, but it happened. There are times, like you, that I think about the career that I had and could have had, but nothing is better than the present. I am able to watch my little one (and soon to be on the way little one) grow. Something that I wouldn’t change for anything.
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Well said dear.
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Thanks Cam!!
Although I wrote the post, it is so refreshing to read it again. It serves as a reminder to me that despite my career and where life takes me that everything is okay. 😉
I wouldn’t take anything for my motherhood journey.
So true, our dreams and wishes are changing during our lifetime, and it is natural, because we and our personalities are changing as well. Through the many experiences we have through our lives, we are changing a little bit. It is the most natural process in life, everything changes. The only thing which doesn’t change is the fact that everything changes:)
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Dreams change I discovered this years ago I even have my dreams written down from 10 years ago and I am suppose to be banking right now with my career and just now looking for love but things did not work out like I wanted but just maybe there is a bigger dream waiting for me…I hope.
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Beautiful post and topic. Dreams do change with time becasue life is constantly changing. Sometimes I say, “this is not what I dreamed”, but I’ve learned to accept the change and see the good in it. I really believe everything happens for a reason. I’m still dreaming about mommyhood and patiently waiting for that dream to come true, but I do believe it will happen. And I do believe that you will find the right career path for you in time. The changes in life actually keeps it interesting. Enjoy your mommy moments! Thanks for sharing a piece of your life. 🙂
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I am so learning to roll with the punches. I always wanted to be successful but I think my dreams weren’t specific so I have decided to make my dreams come true in a non traditional way. I have a long way to go but I think I am on the right track
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The path will be created by the goals you select in order to reach your dream. Realizing the small steps that will lead to the achievement of a dream will clearly define your goals.
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I agree, dreams change. What’s amazing to me is that my original dreams,from way back in high school are becoming my dreams again. And that is only because I have a child. I think it’s pretty amazing.
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It is amazing how things work out and come full circle. It just proves there can be a time and a season for everything! 😉
This was a great reflection…I believe it’s alright to have dreams that change…there are seasons all the time when we want different things…as long as God is in the midst…I’m all for changing dreams!!
Our wishes and goals are changing during our lifetime, the more we experience, the more ways we think about the future. That’s a natural process, and I think it is the engine of the evolution as well. Beautiful words by the way, thanks for sharing them!
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So beautiful! So true that everything changes and before you know it, you have new goals, new passions, new hobbies…I certainly didn’t think i’d be doing all that I do now, even just a year ago. God is so awesome and He knows what is best for us. As long as you are happy, I really think that is all that matters.
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