It’s rare that I get some time alone in the car. My daughter is home with me full time and is my sidekick on all adventures until my son joins us after he’s out of school. It’s so unusual for me to be in a car by myself. When I am, I take advantage. One of my favorite things to do is to listen to some of my favorite podcasts. I know, “Oh, how exciting.” What can I say, I’m a little nerd. I mentioned my love of podcasts before. I’ll share my faves in another post.
When I try to listen to any of the podcasts with the kids in the car I’m always distracted. “Stop talking to your brother like that, did you throw that hat at your sister?” Or I’m answering all million of their questions. When I’m really trying to focus on something, they tend to kick their questions up a notch. Coincidence? lol
Recently, I was listening to a podcast and could totally relate to the lady speaking. She worked in television. DING Once she had children, her approach to her career changed. DING She was a producer in New York. I was a writer/producer in Los Angeles. We shared the same struggles to maintain that same excitement that we had for our careers before children. She felt like the demands of her job just became too much. DING
When I was in that situation, I rarely felt like people really understood. It was refreshing to hear someone saying the exact same things. She has since written a book and started a business all about time management. I can so relate to her! From the career to publishing a book and starting a business – we’re almost the same woman on different coasts. Ha! I’ve always felt like it’s so important to find your people. It could be because I’m an only child – who knows? We all need someone who gets us. Here are a few ways I’ve found “my people”.
Blogging – This one is huge for me. When I started my mommy blog years ago, it was to connect with other new moms because I didn’t have any around me. It seriously opened up a whole new world of friends. Like, real friends. Who knew?
Working moms – Many of my people I met when I was still working outside the home. We had the same guilt, the same type of home life and the same balance struggle.
Podcasts – I’ve found many people who I can absolutely relate to. I’ve connected with some via Twitter + FB.
Other SAHM’s – Being a SAHM was new for me. It was awesome to connect with other women who have the same role.
Entrepreneurs – Building a business is crazy! I am thankful for all of the people I’ve found through FB groups and classes. It makes this journey much more doable!
There are people I can talk to about every area of my life and they get it. It’s a beautiful thing. A good way to find your people is by doing things you like. You’ll obviously find people with the same likes and connect over that.
Tell me, do you have any tips for finding your people?
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I think my life pretty much fits into those categories you have listed for the most part. I would take out the podcasts (because I don’t even really know what a podcast is) and substitute my workout mom friends.
I these are all awesome tips. It’s important to find people we can relate to and connect with. As the saying goes, “No man is an island”.
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Love this post! It’s important to surround yourself with people who understand you and with whom you can relate. We all need that “connectedness”. For me it’s about reading and writing. I’ve met some wonderful ladies through the love with share of books! Happy blogging!
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I don’t have any tips, but I’m so glad to have yours! It is so important to be surrounded with people who “get” you. God has placed a couple in my life and I’m grateful. They are patient with me as I try to find my way in mommyhood and starting my own business!
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Blogging also opened up a whole new world of friends for me. I’ve met some of them and became really good friends.
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I’ve found that the people I need in my life come when I least expect them. I’ve never actually gone looking for my people. I’ve been lucky, I guess.
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I use a lot of personal group to find my people. I met one three years ago and we talk every day!
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I’ve found that as you progress through life, you naturally find your people. The path you finally find yourself on generally has like-minded people walking along it.
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I am a “midlife” blogger and I have found my people through Facebook blogging groups. Once I joined one group, I had invites from other groups. Blogging has been a huge help in me finding “my people”.
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I found my tribe online through a birth month board for my son and then in person through newborn support groups. I dont know what I would do without them!
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I belong to a fraternal organization that is one of the only ones in which women and children have just as much of a role as men. The Grange is very family oriented and community based. I found my tribe very early in life.
No, not quite. I wish I could. I feel like I don’t quite fit into any particular group. I am young, but with older children. I work part time and homeschool. Don’t get me started on homeschool groups~ just can’t seem to find the right fit since moving to Florida 🙁
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I think life just naturally flows you into your people, it’s weird how you meet people and how much of an impact they have on your life. It’s truly amazing.
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I’ve meet a lot of friends through blogging. I’ve even met some close friends at blogging events that I had never met online before.
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I really enjoyed reading this, because I can completely relate. I recently started a book written by Shauna Niequist and I have to say I have never ever related to an author the way I do her. It’s like she’s in my head. I read her words and think “Yes! That’s SO ME!” which is really nice, because a lot of the time when I read things I just don’t relate at all. There is a real beauty in being able to say, “Me too.” It gives you that connect that we so deeply desire as thinking, feeling, emotional human beings. I love this post so much. I think it is awesome that you have found SO many different ways to find people you relate to! For me, bible studies have been a great route as have some of the homeschool groups I participate in. 🙂
I think now that the majority of my friends are bloggers. I met all of them in different groups doing different things. I cherish all my friendships and I will not forget them. I think it has been a great way to connect with like-minded people!
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I really enjoyed this post. I’m a wife and mom. I currently work full time outside of the home. I find that I’m actually using blogging more than a hobby these days and more so looking for my tribe. The engagement is really helping. Even though we may just be gabbing over our favorite lipstick color, it’s something I LIKE and expressing what I LIKE (whether its frivolous or not) is somewhat therapeutic. #blmgirl
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It is so incredibly important to find your people. Not only will they be a support system, but a great mirror for yourself to continue growing and improving.
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These are great ways to find your people. I have found my people on fb and through. I don’t get out much so my socializing is done online. Thanks for sharing
I like to know about your tips on how to find others to chat with. For me, the WWW is the only option. But, at least I can contact people in a virtual world. Where would lonely aged people be without the net?
I don’t have any tips of finding my people but I have found friends by starting my blog and partaking in online gatherings. Great post.
I think its always nice when you meet and interact with people who love the same things as you and can bounce ideas off each other.
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I’m still looking for my people. lol. But these are some great tips to point me in the right direction. Thanks.
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Camesha, it’s so important to have a “tribe” online for support and encouragement, and I’ve found mind through my blog and blogging groups. Also it’s important to have friends in person, too, and I’ve connected with neighbors, fellow church members, and even just folks at the grocery store. If you are friendly and interested in others, it’s pretty easy to connect.
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I like the friends aspect present in blogging too. I feel like it’s a wonderful way to connect with moms, bloggers, sponsors, etc. Blogging really does open a lot of doors.
Being thousands of miles away from my fmily, I find it hard to connect with people here. I am glad though that there is social media, I can relate to other people and the blogging world is a great help.
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!! It’s hard being an adult and finding “your people”. In high school and college you are all pretty much in the same stage in life but when you hit the real world and get a job or get married or have kids, the game changes. Great tips!!
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Nice tips hun! I love the way that you make it seem so casual when the topic is really important.
Over this post. I really have no tips because I’m still struggling to find my people. I think it’s important to find but I’ve yet to get there. Maybe I should start listening to podcasts.
definitely found my people at my daughters school. Other moms going through the same and just needed mommy time. Also through my mom shop I own and am working on growing it bigger each day. I have met some great ladies in a group I’m in for my shop!
I’ve made so many new friends through blogging…the only unfortunate thing is that they are all so far away! I would love to meet up in person one day
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I have always been a fairly reserved person when it comes to meeting people. I’ve always bee. A social butterfly on social media. I think it’s bbecause I can speak without fear of judgement. When I starred my blog, I never realized how many moms that I would resonate with. I wasn’t timid to email others asking for opportunities. It’s been an amazing journey. I’m like you, my youngest is home with me all day unless my teenagers are out of school.
When I lived in Orlando meeting mom friends was easy peasy! So many play groups you literally had to go draw from a hat which to go to! Here in WNY… Ugh shoot me! My networking friends are about it! Atleast we all have branding in common lol….
I have listened to some great podcasts over the years. I really need to start listening to them again because their are some really great ones out there.
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I’m not that outgoing as to meeting people like that. My hubby is definitely just the opposite. People are drawn to him too. I wish I could be more like him.
These are fantastic tips for finding your people. I love to check out new podcasts.
Great read, I don’t have kids yet but I do love Podcast. I always find the best nuggets and gems of advice from Podcast.
I have found my people at church and reading books. I’m a new podcast listener, so I’d love to know who all you’re listening to. I’m looking to add to my list (Michael Hyatt’s This is Your Life & The DeLorenzo’s One Extraordinary Marriage).
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Podcasts are a great place to find a new audience and find other people that you can connect with. I love using Facebook groups too to find my people.
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I like this post. These are all wonderful tips. I agree it’s so important to find people we can relate and connect with. These are great ways to find people and I have found some goof friends on FaceBook.
You are so right! I’ve been home for 8 years and have found many tribes. Some come and go but it is very important to have that strong circle to turn to. Great post!
Great post. I’ve been home almost 9 years and have gone in and out of tribes as each stage progresses. It is important to have a strong circle of support to lean on during motherhood and life in general.
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Sometimes it’s really hard to find people who can relate and be close with but there are people out there. Since becoming a mom, I find it’s hard sometimes to connect with others who don’t have kids.
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Yes! I could not agree more. You have to surround yourself with people who get you. I was fortunate to find people who got me and vise versa back in high school and a few before that, and here we are more than 20years later. Its great! Now through my blog I have found new women whom I can call friends who get me. Its so refreshing. I can’t wait to connect with more people where we get each other. =)
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I’ve definitely been working on finding my people post-college. I realized now the people I’m friends have the same interests as me, the same personality traits… my friendships are more meaningful rather than those of proximity. Is it lonely at times to not just be friends with everyone? Yeah, sure. But it’s worth it!
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It took me a while even with blogging. While blogging opened the door I still was skeptical how would blog buddies transfer over into real life. We all need that core of people who get us in each stage of our lives.
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I’ve found my people in the most unexpected places: blogging, working, twitter and they are my village!
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I have always used gaming forums to keep up with my tribe. I haven’t had time to play games in a couple of years, but there is one forum that I’ve been frequenting for over 15 years. The number of people posting there has dwindled, but I have so many fond memories with them.
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Thank you for sharing your insight. I mow plan to do good for my self by finding more artsy friends 😀
Great post! I’d have to say that blogging has opened up and connected me with like minded people. Also being a military spouses and traveling to so many different places around the world has allowed me to connect with others who share the same interests and who are just like me a mom and military wife. I appreciate all of my friendships that I have developed over the years near and far.
Finding my people usually starts on social media, for example, Facebook groups. The groups usually have some sort of event or gathering wherein I manage to meet people in person with same ideas or thinking like mine.
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I so feel this post, I’m always trying to find “my people”. To find people who actually get me. I’m also constantly on a mission to find my purpose.
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Camesha, it’s so true about finding people you can relate to! It’s like finding GOLD because you can have conversations where you don’t have to explain certain things—they just GET it. I have enjoyed blogging and being an entrepreneur for that very reason!
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I share all the time the importance of creating your own community and support system if need be. In addition to what you already mentioned, I found some great friends and support through my local Mocha Moms chapter and homeschool co-op.
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Blogging has certainly helped me find my tribe, and it has been such a great experience. My tribe has helped me not only in blogging, but in life as well. This was such a great post.
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Finding my folks is very important and I try to stay open minded and excited about meeting new folks who are indeed my people. I’ve connected on the playground, at supermarket and at my daughter’s school.
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I’ve been looking for my people a long time! I love that blogging has been a conduit for me to find people who I can relate to and they just get it. Even if we are hundreds of miles apart and just know each other online. I really love my tribe.
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Great Post! Currently I’m in search of “my people” but i’m sure my time is coming!
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I’ve found my people through blogging, instagram, writing workshops and conferences. I’m a great advocate of IG and blogging.
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When I started Blogging I simply wanted a way to let my voice be heard but I found so much more including an entire group of women and supporters that I now call ‘my people’. Life sometimes gives us unexpected ways to connect and create relationships but I am grateful for each of them.
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