My mother and I have always been really close. Being that it was just she and I in at home we developed this super close bond. As a little girl, I always remember feeling at ease whenever I saw my Mom. I used to always lay on her lap and she’d rub my back or my hair. Just feeling the warmth of my mom’s hands brought me instant comfort. Everything in my little world could be going wrong but when I saw my mom I just knew she’d somehow fix it – no matter what “it” was. As an adult, I still feel a certain calm when I talk to my mom. Even though we are thousands of miles apart our bond is still super strong.
When I look at my own kids I notice how they respond to me. I can’t help but to compare how they are with me to how I was with my mom. From the minute my daughter was born we had a bond. She was crying and immediately calmed to my gentle rock and my voice. My son only needs a rub on his back from me to know that whatever he’s nervous or scared about is going to be OK. As corny as it sounds, I feel so honored that I’m able to bring the same security to my kids that my mom gave me.
I don’t know why that hit me extra hard this weekend. There was no one special thing that happened or any light bulb moments. Just in spending time with my babies I notice how all they need is the reassurance from mommy and daddy that all is good in their little world. Once they get that boost from us, they truly think they can do anything.
I remember my son working through his fear last weekend. He was climbing a new structure that was a little tricky. He was scared and thought about quitting. I was his cheerleader and assured him he could do it. Once he completed it, the pride on his face just made my life! He immediately wanted me to tell his dad and his grandma how great he’d done. He couldn’t run to his dad fast enough to share his news. I was overjoyed to see his confidence grow in those small moments. My voice, my confidence in him got him through it. That makes me want to cry. When I think of how much these two little people look to me and my husband to guide them, to protect them and to tell them they can do anything. That’s big! This mommy thing is something else y’all. Rest assured that I don’t take it for granted.
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You and your daughter look so much alike as babies!! So cute! It’s so true that a mother’s bond with her child can heal a multitudes of bumps, bruises and fears. I hope to keep that type of bond with my children. My Mom is still very nurturing to us and it sets a good example for me.
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Maybe it is something in the air. Being a mother at this moment is the most awesome job. They really do need us so much. Saturday morning I woke up early and snuck out to run some errands and when I got home the baby said, “I was crying for you” that just melted my heart. In our day to day motions we think we are just caring for them but to them we are everything.
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I love watching them watch us when we’re together. My husband is at work all day so when it’s evening or a weekend, I love to watch their eyes slide from one of us to the other, and all is perfect for them at that point.
Beautiful.
I think about that a lot – how my mom has always made me feel at peace. She still does but it’s nice to be a peace-giver too.
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It is amazing the influence we can have on our children. It’s great but also scary sometimes!
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I agree with what Mimi said…there’s something in the air! Since I’ve been at home these last two weeks, I feel so much more close to my daughter. She reaches for me and grabs my face for kisses. It’s the sweetest thing! You’re a great mom, Cam!
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I agree a strong bond will last forever between parents and children. I can see now how much your daughter looks like you. Everyone needs a private chearleader and you are that to your children. You are such a wonderful mom. Keep up the wonderful work!! It will pay off and you will have some wonderful children growing into adults.
You have a beautiful family and are so lucky the bonds are so closely tied!
I feel the same way about my baby
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I thought things would change as my older two kids became adults but they still look for me. They may not want to say they need me but Mama knows.
Great photos, lil Mama is your twin! 🙂
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This is such a sweet post and tribute to your mom. Your story of mothering your little ones is heartwarming too.
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Yes yes yes. It warms my heart everyday when I come through the door and Pookah says MOMMY! Like I’m the best thing since sliced bread. I love how he is sitting right up under me RIGHT now and stroking my arm while he watches his show. Sigh. i love being a mommy.
Totally agree. It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind, but when we step back, we realize that our children need us and look to us for… everything! It’s such an amazing feeling.
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The unconditional love that they have for you is so awesome. Even if I pretend cry they come and hug me and make sure everything is okay. They show you love when no one else will even if they get older and don’t want you to show it in public…like my son lol
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not strange at all …I think about that ALL THE TIME, how I provide the same feelings of love and safety that my mother did for me as a child…if I am half the mother she is….I am doing OK>
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Nice post. I don’t remember that bonding connection with my mom. I had it more with my grandmother. I wish I did though. I love the bond I share with my children though. When they come and hug me on my own just because …. makes me feel so good!
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I definitely love everything about being a mom. I always reflect on how my kids have made me a better person but I also have to realize that I’m making them better people too by guiding them and offering them security and unconditional love. I cherish every moment spend my loves.
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Beautiful post! The work we do as mothers is truly remarkable and often hard to express in words but you did a wonderful job. It’s a true gift you’re giving your children!
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