Working is awesome. Being a mom is beyond awesome. Put the two together and it can be a sucky situation. Sometimes I feel like the term working mom is some sort of oxymoron.
Yes, it’s great to get out there and do your thing in the workplace. Interacting with other adults, meeting deadlines and bringing home a check are all good things. Feeling like a part-time mom, isn’t such a good thing. Spending so much time away from my son is hard and strangely, it’s something I’m getting used to. I never thought I would. It’s just become a way of life. He goes off to school, we go off to work and we all meet up again at home in the evenings. Those few hours in the evening are the most coveted hours of my day. It’s when I feel like I’m at my best. When I’m being mom and wife. I just wish there was some way to create that elusive balance all working moms seek. Just over two years into motherhood, I still haven’t found it.
The reality of being a working mom really hit home this week. My husband texted me to update me on the Easter egg hunt at my son’s school. He’d just found out the time. Of course, it’s at a time when I can’t make it. So today, while I’m trying to give my all at work, my mind will be at my son’s school. Last year, they put a little bunny tail and ears on him that he’d made in class. He was so cute searching for eggs around their playground. He got more eggs than any other child in his class! I missed the Easter egg hunt last year because I just couldn’t get away from work. It makes me really sad that I’ll have to miss it again this year. Last year, my husband took plenty of pictures and video.
He’ll do it again this year. I’m so thankful that he works so close to our son’s school and is able to be there. I still hate that I can’t.
Don’t get me wrong, my job has been awesome and accommodating to my new life as mom. I just really have a lot to get done and can’t get away. I mean, it’s work.
At least I’m off with my little man tomorrow. It’s his spring break. Yes, pre-school takes a one day spring break. We’ll get our mommy/son time and I’ll enjoy every second. We might even do our own Easter egg hunt.
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Finding balance with the two can be hard. It helps when at least one parent can be there when the other can’t.
I love the bunny ears and tail!! RJ’s daycare has a “Spring Break” tomorrow as well:) Hubby and I are off too. We’re going to have a great family weekend.
Enjoy your Spring Break!
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Your son looks cute and like he is having fun.
It’s hard my hubs misses everything because he works 6 days a week. I try to video tape as much as I can and sometimes I even miss events because I can’t take my baby with me. Its hard but having a great job that is flexible is a good thing some jobs are not as nice.
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I know what you are complaining about, I am a self-emlpoyed mom of 2 who works from home. Working from home has got its own benefits, but if you are a mom of the hyperactive boys, you aren’t able to manage your time as you want.
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It’s important to spend time when you can. It sucks that we can choose when we want to work:-)
I COMPLETLY understand! My job is the more flexible one, but I still feel like I miss out on a lot. Sigh. Can’t have everything I suppose.
I’m glad your hubs is able to go to the things you can’t get to though, and the photos and video help you feel like you were there!
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So cute!!!!
That’s got to be tough. Your son is lucky to have you!
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Honestly, I don’t think we can find a balance. I’ve been both a SAHM and working Mom. Both are amazing and both have drawbacks. Seems there will always be something lacking. I think I have just resigned my self to being the best Mom, employee and Me I can be in the moment. You’re a good mama, Cam.
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yeah, i’m learning that “balance” is a joke. 🙁
It can be a struggle to find balance but its all worth it. We work for a purpose though and thats what I have to remind myself when I just want to spend time with my munchkin.
It really is a hard thing to swallow and at times, I find myself in the same position as you — feeling kinda sucky about it. But then I like to think of it as I have to work so that I can give Aiden what he needs. Yet, still, it’s the constant trade off — the not being able to make it to Easter Egg Hunts because of meetings at work… or missing an important meeting at work because of an event at school. It’ll never end.
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Man, this post is crazy on time for me. Going back to work this week with two babies ill was the hardest thing i’ve ever had to do. And I have never been more tired. Working sucks, but we got to do what we gotta do!
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I think it’s wonderful that at least one of you was able to be there for him and the idea of having a hunt at home is fun! The thought of not being with my daughter all day makes me sad at times and it motivates me to work even harder at my own business and support my husband best I can so I won’t have to return to corporate America.
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It is tough when you can’t make an event. I have been fortunate to make pretty much everything. My husband’s schedule is crazy so I am the one that can usually get there. I definitely embrace the time I have been able to be involved with my son’s activities. I know as I prepare to enter the workforce again, I’ll feel just like you when I can’t make something. I am really hoping for something flexible that won’t hinder me from events. 😉
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Here’s hoping you find something with the flexibility you need. 🙂
Such a tough balance..I work alot from home so feel EVEN guiltier because I will SEE him playing or doing something fun and know that I can’t get involved because I have this email to answer or that client to call….it is tough…but blessed to have both a child and a career I love so I make it work..will we ever find the balance? Who knows!
LOVE the photos…his little “tail” is TOO CUTE for words! Hope you had a great Easter.
C
Yeah, I bet that’s hard too. There’s no easy way to do this mommyhood thing, huh? 🙂
Being a mom was never easy especially when you’re a single mom, working full time. 🙁
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